First off I have never ever wanted to be one of those bloggers who just puts up pretty pictures of perfect outfits, hair, ect. I mean I am not going to lie I have a pretty amazing life and I am surrounded by pretty amazing people, but my life is not at all perfect in any way shape or form. Because guess what life is not meant to be perfect and there is no one in this life that is perfect and I am really sorry if you think you are because your not.... sorry to burst your bubble.
We all have certain struggles and dislikes about ourselves. Mistakes in our past that we want to change but you know what we can't. And that is definitely not a bad thing, because in this life our mistakes are what define us as human beings, they either make us better or tear us down. In my life I have never made any gigantic mistake, but all the small ones that I have made make up my gigantic mistake. So why would I judge someone else for their mistake no matter how big or small if I have made just as many mistakes just in different ways? Like President Uchtdorf kind of said in one of his talks "Don't judge me because I make different mistakes than you do." I did not exactly quote what he said because I wanted to switch the word sin with mistake, but you get what I mean.
Now I am just going to get to the purpose of this post I promise you just keep reading. I don't like when people judge others that they don't even know, by the mistakes that they have made in the past. And what I am going to say next has been really hard for me and I have tried to hide it, I have not said anything about it to people because I do not what them judging me or my husband for past mistakes. At first it was mistake I wish I could have erased forever, but now after almost two years I am learning to be ok with this mistake.
Divorce has a crazy stigma that once you say you or your spouse has been divorced its like an instant judgment switch turns on. People instantly start thinking you are a bad person and they start wondering what you did wrong. When in all reality marriage is hard, its something that you have to work at and you have to want it. In a marriage both spouses have to have the same end goals in this life, they both have to be willing to give it a hundred and twenty percent all of the time. And once there is a slip and other things start becoming more important your marriage will start to dwindle. Soon there will be nothing left to fight for anymore especially when the other person has already given up. No matter how many years you have been together things can break and years will mean nothing.
And now comes the part of letting our mistakes make us into better people, or break us into someone we would never want to be. Yes I am finally saying it my husband went through a divorce, and yes it was an incredibly hard time for him and I can't even imagine seeing him so hurt. I wish I could have been there to help, but it just wasn't yet my time to be in his life. So right now I just want to thank all of his family and his amazing friends (you know who you are) for making him feel like a needed person. Now I think of his divorce not even a mistake but an amazing life changing experience for him, a huge building block in making him the person he is today. He is one of the few that did not let his mistake tear him down he let it build him up tremendously! He kept doing the things he knew were right and I am so thankful for that because him doing what he was suppose to was how we met. He is probably one of the strongest most amazing people that I know, one of the best examples that I could ever have. Heavenly Father gave him his trial and he overcame it and it made him one of the greatest men I know. I am so thankful for him in my life and I am so thankful that I get to be sealed to him for all time and eternity. I love you to the moon and back Travy!
So I guess all in all don't let your mistakes define your life, let them build you up and make you a
better person. And stop judging the book by its cover get to know someone before you go in and judge their life. This life is not meant to be perfect but we can become more perfected by the mistakes and trials in our lives if we take them in the right way.
I hope you enjoyed getting to know me a little better and I really hope this can help someone somehow I love your guys! Thanks for reading!